Love, eroticism and sex should be deeply interconnected in romance stories of all genres and heat levels – and in real life.
I’m pulling out the dictionary to see the similarities and differences between each. I heaved the Radom House Dictionary of the English Language to my dining table:
Love: the profoundly tender or passionate affection for a person of the opposite sex. (oops, not politically correct anymore)
Eroticism: the sexual or erotic quality or character of something (duh!)
Sex: the fact or character of being either male or female (brilliant, lol!)
Okay, let’s throw away these dictionary definitions and let me describe reasons for connecting love, eroticism, and sex in a novel or short story.
A quilt lay across my bed, crafted with different strands and colors of fabric, yet once woven, the diversity became one.
Love builds throughout a story and may not be realized until the end—the Happy Ever After or possibility of a happy ending.
Eroticism should build as well—giving hints of the hot sex to occur.
Sex can happen separately from love or eroticism but it’s not rewarding in and of itself. It’s “hot” when the characters discover themselves through their sexuality.
Isn’t the same in real life? A satisfying life finds a balance of the three at some level. It’s not expressed in the same way for each person or each couple, but within our relationships (whether friends, lovers, or spouse) we need love and it’s made much deeper when laced with the joy of eroticism and passion — whether that be sexual or an appreciation of the beauty around us.
Good authors, or great authors, weave love, eroticism and sex seamlessly in their stories. That’s what I’ll be looking for in the books I read and the standard I strive to achieve in the stories I write.
Also read my post I don’t like writing about sex.
Are there stories you’ve written or read where the three elements are expertly woven together? Go ahead and mention in the comments.
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